The Eight Principles of Love Theory
Starting with three foundational concepts we are able to build a theory for developing better relationships with our significant others. The three concepts are: a strong sense of self, well developed spirituality, and empowering belief systems. From this foundation the eight principles that form the theory are constructed. The principles are each addressed in the first eight chapters. The ninth chapter combines and summarizes the previous ones. The workbook is designed to compliment a nine week group work course. The final group meeting is held about two months after the eight week series ends.
1. Loving self and loving others unconditionally
Who am I? Do I really love myself? Is it selfish to love myself before others? What is my level of self-esteem? Letting go of the past. How do I learn to love others unconditionally? Must I accept them for who they are and not put demands on them to change, or do things my way? What if they put demands on me to change?
2. Developing my spiritual self
What gives meaning to my life? How do I compare religion and spirituality? What are my strengths, values, and beliefs? What about setting goals?
3. Having empowering beliefs
Now that I am learning to love myself, how do I make changes in my attitude and behavior that I am not satisfied with? Do I have to change beliefs? How can I learn to pay attention to that still small voice inside of me. Growing in self esteem. How can I continue to improve it in an ongoing way?
4. Internal control vs. external control
How do I learn to stay in control of my own emotions, thoughts, and behavior? What is this about making the right choices not to let others behavior or outside circumstances affect mine? How can I do that?
5. Substance abuse or other forms of abuse
What do I do if my significant other has a substance abuse problem or is abusive in some other way? Does this "problem" have to be resolved before the relationship can flourish? How can one love unconditionally in these situations?
6. Self-Discipline - How does it work?
Methods and suggestions on how to develop self discipline in the 3 primary areas of personal wellness: spiritually, emotionally, and physically. More about setting goals.
7. Getting in touch with feelings and expressing needs
How can I learn to get in touch with my feelings and then learn to express them to my significant others in ways that they can respond to? How to ask for what you need. Learn more about belief systems and how to change them.
8. Confronting with love
What is the difference between aggressiveness and assertiveness? Learn techniques for behavior management and/or positive behavior change that can be used for persons of any age.
9. Putting it all together for lasting results
Learn to integrate the eight principles for greater freedom and personal autonomy in every aspect of life. Setting goals for the future.
